Don’t Expect That 2021 Will Be Better

A lot of people can’t wait for 2020 to end, as if all it takes to “fix” it is to get a new calendar.

Yay, 2021! I can finally forget about that big, bad, 2020!

For many, 2020 wasn’t anywhere close to what they would consider a “good” year. But it wasn’t bad because of its inherent nature. It was bad because of the personal judgment of those people.

When we judge events based on whether they unfold according to our tastes, we’re walking on the most unstable land there is. It’s the land of basing our inner world on the external factors. And it’s the land upon which we can’t exert any control.

What if 2020 just was? Wouldn’t it be more pleasant if we chose to experience it as it was, with no judgment?

I wasn’t great at surrendering to 2020. I wrestled with the world for the great majority of the year. I was angry at the politicians, at the taken decisions, and at the people who opposed my views. With an unstable mind, I made many bad decisions.

I myself made 2020 a hell. In hindsight (fueled by a 18-day 60-minute meditation streak), I can now also say that 2020 was a great year. I lived for five months in the tropics (couldn’t find a better place to be stranded at!). I traveled for most of the year. I learned a lot of lessons I couldn’t have learned without all that unfurled this year.

Don’t expect that 2021 will be better. Expect—no, promise yourself— that you will be better at not judging external circumstances to be good or bad. As Michael A. Singer says, “You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer.”